Tantra Healing Massage for Men and Women
This autumn and winter brings many of us closer to new explorations and new questions about our sexuality, intimacy and creative life force as a pathway to healing, balanced relationship and opening towards love. Interview with Katrin Silman and Urmas Silman reveals practical and spiritual aspects of Tantric massage in the context of tantric therapy and upcoming "Tantra Healing Massage" workshop in Riga in February 21-22,2015.
What are the effects of knowing how to give and receive Tantric massage for an individual?
In order to give a Tantric massage You have to learn the anatomy of female/male sexual organs, which will give You a lot of deeper understanding into the topic of sexuality and the body functions. It will also teach You how to conciously use Your sexuality and sexual energy in Your relationships. Many traumas that are in the body memory can be healed through a Tantric massage practice and You can increase the pleasure in Your sexuality into much higher levels. Both men and women can become multiorgasmic and open up their full sexual potential. Men can start to control and separate their orgasm and ejaculation and women can start to experience internal vaginal orgasms. It is also a great addition to Your sex life, spicing it up, especially for couples who have been together for long time and lost their spark. Understanding sexuality better reveals the power to transform Your entire life.
Is Tantric massage only for people who are in relationship?
Tantric massage is meant for everyone. Discovering Your own sexuality is not something that You have to do together with a partner. In fact if You do not have a partner it can help You open Your sexual energy and attract a partner into Your life.
How does the knowledge and practice of tantric massage influences relationship?
In a relationship first of all You reallly get to know Your partner and their exact needs including sexuality. It will bring freshness into relationships that have lost it along the years. Often times it can completely change people’s sexuality, it uncovers the real sexual potential of people, because often the true sexuality is hidden under layers. It creates more intimacy and closeness between partners in emotional and physical level. Men and women learn to practice sexuality for strenghtening their bond and not to use each other for emotional and physical release.
What do people learn in a practical level in a tantra massage workshop?
People will learn during the workshop how to first relax and open up the body with relaxing and energizing massage, which brings their body already to a higher vibrational level. Also working with energy points in the body, Marma points, to help move energy easier and prepare the body for energetical full body orgasms. Both men an women will get to give and receive 2 massage sessions during the workshop. Yoni&Lingam massage will teach people how to give each other long lasting, deep internal and full body orgasms.
Will Tantra healing massage seminar be theoretical and practical? And can I attend seminar alone? How will I practice? Is it safe? What if I have never done it before? And will I be able to practice it with a partner in future?
It will be theoretical and practical both. When attending the seminar alone we will keep the male/female balance so that everyone will have a partner to practice with. You will choose Your own partner in the beginning of the training. It is a very safe and trustworthy environment which we create in the workshop. Everyone is allowed to set their own boundaries. If it is a new experience, then all You need is an open mind and respect towards others to participate. Previous experience is not necessary for attending the workshop. You can practice this after the workshop, because after giving 2 sessions, You will have enough practice to continue with it on Your own. We suggest to take notes every evening after the workshop, writing down details about the massage, because then it is fresh in Your mind.
Will this seminar be beneficial if I have been meditating for a few years, I can feel the energy in my body and I am developing a conscious mind, but I still have a feeling that I have not reached my potential of physical, emotional and spiritual satisfaction and release in intimate relationship?
It is very good to work with Your higher energy centers or chakras, but not to forget that a tree can not bear fruits if the roots are weak. It is as important to work with the lower chakras, as it is with the higher ones. Sexuality is the foundation of our being, we are sexual beings and our body is made for sex. Also Your sexual energy is Your spiritual potential. The bigger root chakra You have, the more easily You can open Your crown chakra. All parts of Your being, lower and higher should be well developed in order to have harmony in Your everyday life and relationship with Yourself and others.
What is the difference of attending Your Tantra massage seminar from an individual session with You?
In the individual session we focus on that person 100%. In the seminar we are teaching a group and we can’t address people’s personal issues. In the seminar it is a learning process to give/receive Tantric massage and some basics of Tantric theory. In the individual session we focus on personal issues. Also some people are afraid to attend a workshop with other people, they feel safe and comfortable in private sessions. It is a private experinece for that person, not a group experience. Also as therapists we have lot of experience working with people and when giving them a private session we can also often support them into opening up better. During a private session a person gets individual practices and advice praticulary for them.
When people participate in workshop, they can benefit from group energy and it helps to get over from different fears and blockages that are related with sexuality.
Can men and a women direct the energy in the body during an orgasm, and can everyone learn it? Is it a pure energetic process or also a physical process (involving movement, different positions etc.)?
Learning to direct energy in the body is not a very complicated process, but most people do not even know what it means to feel energy moving in their body. You can move energy just with Your mind, energy flows where the mind goes. But in the beginning it is necessary to bring it down to a physical level to help people understand it better, until our mind is not strong enough. We will teach certain exercises how to start moving Your energy in the body with physical exercises and also with the mind and the breath. Everyone can learn this, for some people it can just take more time to start feeling energy movements in the body. But usually they do not feel energy, because they lack awareness in their body.
What is You opinion about monogamy and poliamory in context of Tantra path?
I see that most people are practicing a path of poliamory in their lives, just one relationship at a time. Monogamy means one relationship in Your entire life. Very few people pratice that road. But if we are talking about having multiple relationships at the same time, then I would say that it is very important to understand why You are doing it. If it is for Your own personal development and with full honesty to all parties invloved, I think it can be a very beneficial thing. It is just that often times I see that multiple relationships are practiced with lies and without awareness. An open relationship can spiritualize Your ego and it can also build up Your ego. Often people say that they are in an open relationship for spiritual development, but in truth they are just running away from themselves, because in a monogamous relationship the truth is too much to handle, because of the mirroring effect of Your partner. The deepest You can go with one partner and it is not so easy to run away.
Interview by Dana Indāne.